The problem of addiction is an issue of realization. Somebody considers that to drink a glass of beer at the end of the day brings no more harm than to eat a piece of cake. It is tasty, helps to relax and forget problems of the tense day. Others regard it as a usual habit, equating it with anticipation, expectation or even thirst. But there are others, who need to drain half bottle of whiskey in the evening to feel comfortable.
If you ask the latter ones whether they consider themselves alcoholics, you will hear the definite answer “No!” But are they addicted? Yes, because in this case their necessity transformed from the phase of anticipation to chemical addiction. They have to take a daily dose of alcohol to feel comfortable. Besides, there is also an aspect of psychological addiction.
People understand the concept of friendship differently, but there is one common ground for it – it is always built on a mutual sympathy. In some cases it is transient and finds its end eventually, while in other cases it may last for many years and grow stronger every year. True friendship is built on trust and mutual support. Your real friend will always find time to talk and try to find solutions to the hard situations you face every day. He is always there to help you and expects the same from you. Friends are psychologically comfortable with each other, and sometimes are emotionally closer than with their relatives.
You never know when you will meet a friend – you may have common interests, work or study in one field, or go through the hard situation, which will unite you. Women are scientifically proven to seek support and sympathy in their friendship (due to higher emotionality of all females), while men find friends with common interests and whom they may trust.
Anger is one of the basic emotions and all of us experience it in certain situations. From an evolutionary perspective, anger has been given to people in order to survive. If something negative happens in a person’s life, it usually irritates him. Anger is a normal reaction in such situations. It helps to resist them and facilitates their solution. It always helps to prove one’s point or to say “no” when it is necessary. Anger is considered as an irritation of secondary or higher degree. Unfortunately, it can result in rage, or even violence. Everything depends on the person, situation and the ability to control negative feelings.
Initially, this emotion was not considered as negative. But today it is one of the most frowned upon emotions in society. We are forced to avoid any manifestation of anger. As a result, the problem often remains unsolved. In fact, anger is a very positive feeling.
Once upon a time there was a young woman who was helping returning military officers and soldiers after the II World War to find a job. It was not an easy task and sometimes people with great potential and talent for particular things had to do repetitive and mechanical job. She decided to develop a study that would help people and employers find the optimal match between personalities and job types, where employee would bring the most value to the company and enjoy his daily job at the same time. Katherine Cook Briggs started to collect the data and note her personal observations in order to examine her findings and come up with the way to standardize and evaluate personalities based on common criteria.
She was very enthusiastic and almost obsessed with her idea of creating unified measurement and psychological types that would solve the motivational problem in a workplace. Going through numerous literature works and previous studies, she once came across the work of Carl Gustav Jung, who developed a study on the personalities just a couple of years before Katherine started her work. When young scientist realized that Jung basically did all the research for her, she had thrown away her work-in-progress notes and started her work on the unique psychometric tool. Several years later famous test MBTI (Meyer Briggs Type Indicator) came into the light and started its journey in the US and then conquered Europe and central Asia.
One of experiments that I like to do is to ask kids what they think about some particular subject. Their opinions are pure and not yet loaded with emotions, experiences and conclusions that drive the decisions and cognition of an adult person. With their world and naive definitions we can learn about initial and, probably, most proper definition of the notions.
Today I would like to talk about the meaning of the word “peace”. Peace from the perspective of those who will be fully or partially responsible for the development of this notion in next generation. I asked my cousin about his vision and understanding of the word and received the following reply: